Saving yourself

For marriage, that is.

The whole issue about premarital sex is one that I'm really serious about, fuelled especially by an article in StarTwo today focusing on young people, premarital sex, and sex videos.

The few girls that were interviewed were experienced in this area, claiming that there wasn't anything wrong with it, though one girl felt guilty sometimes due to her religion (ish Malay girl). She lets her bf keep videos of her in his cellphone to keep him keen when she's not with him. Not only that, another female interviewee thinks that it's so common nowadays that girls will find it hard to refuse their partners taking videos of them having sex.

I don't mean to be a prude nor do I want to accuse/rant/looked down upon girls who are involved in this activity. But it just sickens me that girls in this generation are losing their purity at such a young age. I firmly believe in abstinence until marriage, and it's not only because of religion or faith or whatever, but it has been one of my strongest principles since a long time ago. Of course, I can't completely swear that I'll stick to this principle as the future is unpredictable, and I can't be sure that I'm strong enough to hold on to it, but I will try my best not to fall into the trap.

People may think that I'm deluded as lots of males don't exactly believe in this principle and I do realise that if I ever find a partner, he'll most likely have indulged in premarital sex. I'm not a fool and I'm not deluded; I don't know how I'll react, how I'll think, but I'll leave that for now as it's still early. I'll just cross the bridge when I come to it.

Sex is meant to be enjoyed, but (I believe lah) between married couples (and I don't mean couples who get hitched on a whim only to separate a few months later), it's a consummation of love and commitment, and not something to just enjoy or indulge in as a temporary pleasure. That's why it's called "making love", not "making pleasure". And I know that many couples love each other even though they aren't married, and what they do IS making love. But then, if you love each other and can't wait to Do It, why do you not want to commit to each other? If you're young, why can't you wait? Do you think marriage is just a piece of paper and that your love transcends all form of rules? To me, refusing to commit by marriage eventhough you love each other, shows that you're not sure that the person you're lying with is the one you truly love and are willing to spend a life with. Refusing to commit makes it easier to separate, it's less of a hassle without all the paperwork. I just... I don't buy into that.

If God wanted humans to have multiple sex partners and sleep around, He wouldn't have created Adam and Eve, but Adam and Eve, and Sarah, and Rebeccah, and whichever female names you can come up with. (Not meaning to be sexist, it's the best metaphor I can come up with which best sums up my feelings)

This is just my opinion and I'm not trying to belittle those who have/are indulging in this, not am I trying to be holier-than-thou. I'm sure they are lovely people. Hopefully I haven't offended anyone, I just want to rant and release the feelings that I had after reading that article.